To Ignore or Not Ignore, that is the question

For the Love of Children

Huge insight lately about children and love.

Do you think children are born empty of love and our job as parents is to fill them up with love them to make them feel loved ?  No! This makes no sense does it?  We are so backwards sometimes!  Our job as parents is to actually open ourselves [...]

How to be a better parent. part1.

Here is a tip I’m learning about how to be a better parent.

Take care of yourself by taking time for yourself.  This means give yourself  a good chunk of Time and your Present Awareness, your own Attention.  Time to be alone and away from your children.  Beg friends, hire a babysitter, ask MOM, or even [...]

Ding Ding. Round One.

Hey now now.
I’m all gimped up and sore wristy, because Max is so freakin heavy and strong now that I keep wrenching it when I pick him up. So these days, me and my muscley baby have been having SHOW DOWNS. I’ve started disciplining. Seriously. He’s 14 months old tomorrow and [...]

And This Is Why and How I Carry On

So one of my goals in this thing called Parenting Small Children is to do things for myself whenever I can.  I’m acutely aware that children learn the most about how to live their lives by observing their models. Sure, sure, I do stuff for myself so I don’t go nutso living in only one [...]

Life as Art

All my life, since I was a small girl, I’ve examined anything I saw as beautiful and I’ve studied art. Alone for hours in my parents’ lounge, I’d pore over the few Chinese paintings that were hung on the walls. I’d stare and stare and look at the expressions on the painted faces, make [...]

The truth of Motherhood at 5:15 pm

If any of you are stay at home mothers, and have just spent all day long (10 plus hours) alone with your young children, engaging, playing,  soothing, teaching, cleaning and picking up after them and picking them up, I get that you want to scream and I get that you want to cry and [...]