I’m sorry. I’m so sorry for…. I’m sorry that I….
Apologizing is powerful. Apologizing instantly raises the energy of the interaction, so long as it’s sincere and not meant to manipulate. ’I'm sorry’ is something I pretty much use every day all throughout the day. There is always an instance where I was insensitive, there is always an instance where I spoke sharply, there is always an instance where I made a mistake. Apologizing leads to truth, truth of why I behaved a particular way, what I was really reacting to on a deeply personal level. Apologizing lets me see past all the ego based justifications and posturing and allows me to see through the other person’s eyes. Apologizing to children is simply not done enough. It’s usually in the guise of mental rationalization of adult hypocrisy, but if we can get past the bullshit we tend to produce, and apologize from your heart, your child will look you straight in the eyes and you will know that they see you. Not just ‘Mom’ and ‘Dad’, not just ‘my parent’, or ‘the grownup’, but human to human. And every time you do this, and meet them on this level, you will know that they are our own special little gurus come here to teach us about ourselves and not the other way around. They inspire by constantly pushing the envelope for what we think is possible, they inspire through their resilience, their open hearts and their easy ability to achieve. And when you demonstrate fallibility to your children, it doesn’t set them up for years and years of self flagellation if they themselves make mistakes in the future. It teaches them the perfection of imperfection; the joy of the journey.
